Appreciating Dad This Father's Day
By Nicole Whang
We often hear about the struggle of motherhood, from the hardship of pregnancy to labor & birth and on to breastfeeding and parenting. Yet our significant others struggles and contributions are often less recognized.
Let's take the time this Father's Day (and every day!) to appreciate their efforts with these 5 suggestions:
1) They have their own way of parenting
Somehow along with pregnancy and birth comes ultra controlling mamas. It is so easy to consider our way is the best way but we need to give dads the benefit of the doubt. Their way may make us cringe at first but we need to allow them the opportunity to parent in their own way and learn from their mistakes.
2) They feel helpless despite wanting to help
During a mother's pregnancy, labor and breastfeeding journey, dads often don't know how they can contribute. This is the time to take the communication to the next level. Reassure them. Let them know what you need when you need it. And although not much can be changed when it comes to birth, technology does allow us to be able to pump milk, allowing dads to fulfill the night time duties and giving moms the rest they need.
3) It is not easy for them either
They are also struggling with the changes that come along with having a baby. They do at times feel vulnerable, powerless, disregarded and unappreciated in their own journey of fatherhood. Sometimes it's hard to know when they may be feeling down. Remember, men suffer from depression and anxiety as well. Make it a habit of encouraging them when warranted and to let them know their help is appreciated.
4) They need breaks too
Whether they are a working dad or a stay at home dad, they need a break too. Whether it's a night out with the guys, being able to sleep in one morning, or just some time alone. Bottom line, they need it just as much as we do. And some time away may give them the extra burst of energy to take care of the children and give you a break!
5) Nurture the relationship between husband and wife
The first year after having a baby can wreak havoc on our relationships. It is easy to lose sight of who we were before baby when babies command our attention 24/7. Make a deliberate and conscious effort to nurture your relationship. And of course, a simple thanks and other verbal encouragement can go a long way.
Happy Father's Day!