GOING BACK HOME
I’ve been back home in New York for the last few weeks with my 18 month old daughter Dafne. Coming back to the city is always an inspiration and an injection of energy for me. Jay-Z’s lyrics “these streets will make you feel brand new, the lights will inspire you” definitely ring true. NYC really does make you feel like “there’s nothin’ you can’t do.”
We live in Italy most of the time, but I try to make it back at least once a year to see friends and family. This year’s trip was different. It was my first time back with my daughter and a new business. Finding time for her, family and friends, and creating Teat & Cosset has been a challenge. Our first week in NY I had to deal with my daughter’s jet-lag and my resulting exhaustion. She had started sleeping through the night only a couple of months before and now it seemed like we were starting all over again…ugh… Besides my daughter, I had to focus on Teat & Cosset’s upcoming launch in September and my to do list was pages long; find a fulfillment center, choose packaging, meet with our fashion designer, write content, network, etc.
I realized (after a mini-breakdown) that there was no way I was going to get all this done if I didn't get some help with Dafne. I made the mistake many moms make; packing in too much and believing I could do everything. I wanted to spend quality time with my daughter, see my friends and family, and complete my Teat & Cosset “to do” list. I tried to do everything, but ended up stressed out and unhappy. After finally deciding to ask for help, I spoke with my parents and found a solution. Every morning they would take Dafne to the park while I worked at home. While she napped in the afternoons I would go to my appointments and then spend quality time with her in the evenings. I planned each week in advance making sure not to plan too much for one day. It’s almost time to leave New York (Dafne and I miss her daddy!) and I haven’t managed to do everything I had wanted.
But Dafne has had a blast and bonded with her aunt and grandparents and I’ve managed to catch up with my best friends. And the most important things on my list for Teat & Cosset have been checked off. I don’t personally believe that women can have or do it all without compromising a bit somewhere. But we can get the essentials done with serious organization and a little bit (or lots) of help!