Jody's Breastfeeding Story
As a new mom who is experiencing everything for the first time it often helps to hear stories about other moms going through similar challenges.
Thanks to Jody for sharing her personal breastfeeding journey with us. Read on to learn what advice she offers for overcoming your hardest days, why a support system is key and how breastfeeding was different with each of her sons...
1) What was your experience breastfeeding after your baby's birth?
My experiences breastfeeding were all the great, beautiful things people always tell you about, but also some of the hardest things. With my oldest son, we had latch issues from day one that took a couple weeks to solve. I had scabs, sores, and some of the worst pain I've ever had. With my youngest, I knew from the first latch, I knew he had a tongue tie even though the lactation consultant said otherwise. After visiting another physician and confirmed the tongue tie, it was clipped. Once the issues with each of the boys were resolved, breastfeeding was a relative breeze.
2) What was your biggest challenge during breastfeeding and how did you overcome it?
My biggest challenges with breastfeeding were the latch issues and lack of sleep. Both of my boys loved comfort nursing throughout the night, and my youngest got to a point where there was no other option but to co-sleep for months. I was nearly a single mom at that point since my husband worked out of town more often than he was home, and my family was hours away. I had to do my best to keep sane and take care of my boys.
3) What do you wish you had been told about breastfeeding when you were pregnant?
I can't think of anything that I wished someone had told me about breastfeeding was pregnant, because I did so much research on my own and had my sister, who nursed 3 kids at my side to help.
4) Name 3 things (people/books/experts,etc) that have supported you/helped you continue to breastfeed to reach your goals.
My sister was probably my biggest support with my breastfeeding journeys. She did nothing but support me. And when I bawled about putting my eldest on formula at 10 months, she was there to tell me he will be fine, that I was a great mom and breastfeeding for 10 months was just fine. My husband was also a great help. He was more than happy to be there for me, bring me snacks or drinks when I was stuck in a chair, and kept my boys busy when I needed to pump at home. Then there's my mom group from when I was pregnant with my first. We have all become so close, regardless of being scattered all over, we all have each other's back and will help as much as possible.
5) Did you instantly bond with your children?
I instantly bonded with my first. The second he was placed on me, it was love. There was such a connection, it couldn't be described. My second was a different story. It took a little longer to bond with him because I was concerned that my first would hate him, and our family was in a rough spot. I didn't have any help after my second was born and when he was 2 days old my husband was back at work, and I was home alone with both boys.
6) Breastfeeding is hard enough, did you ever feel like functional clothing is an obstacle as well?
Functional clothing is a must with breastfeeding, especially with your first! It was a serious obstacle because I was comfortable with breastfeeding in public, but I wanted to be as discreet as possible. Covers were sometimes a pain, and made it harder. I learned more with my second, finding the right shirts that are loose enough but not huge on me. And Bamboobies nursing pads! They are a MUST for every mom. They are comfortable and not itchy.
7) Any advice to new moms?
Never quit on your hardest day. Wait it out. Give it another day, week. Because you will have bad days where your nipples hurt, the baby is attached to your boob all damn day, but the next may be so much better. And coconut oil is fantastic for sore nipples! I preferred it over any other cream or lanolin that I tired. Pumping sucks, literally. But it's worth it. I never pumped with my second because I worked at his daycare, and that's something I regret not doing. I didn't realize how attached I was to him until I quit nursing. And lastly, take care of yourself. YOU need to be happy. Postpartum depression and anxiety are real, and don't be scared of them. See your doctors, get the help you need.
Thanks Jody for sharing! If you'd like to share your breastfeeding journey with us and help support other moms please email us at: email@example.com
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